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  • Friday, 16 June 2017

    Focusing on Your Inner Strength - Ayoola Efunkoya (Founder, Accessibility 360)


    Focusing on Your Inner Strength - Ayoola Efunkoya (Founder, Accessibilty 360)


    "When you meet someone with disability on the road, it's not time to give them money. It's more appropriate to find ways that they could be their best in their situation."

    This is one of the most striking statement Ayoola Efunkoya made in this episode of Lead Your Life Series.

    We live in a  society where there is no proper system for inclusion of people with disabilities and therefore they are being marginalized.  We often times subconsciously see them as helpless people who need pity.

    Today's episode of Lead Your Life Series features the story of how Ayoola Efunkoya who might have been seen as just a blind man, took charge of his life and became independent. Today, he is helping individuals with disabilities access technology that help them improve their productivity.

    Lead Your Life Series, is a special edition of Lead Your Life Podcast. We share real life experiences of how personal struggles and seeming setbacks were turned into phenomenal stories of hope and grace.

    About Ayoola Efunkoya 

    Ayoola Efunkoya (Founder, Accessibilty 360)


    Ayoola Stephen Efunkoya is a journalist with more than five years experience in reporting, writing, interviewing, editing and producing for radio as well as sound recording and editing.

    His interest in journalism dates to his days in elementary and high schools and has since grown because he believes the profession provides a rare opportunity to draw the attention of both government and the society to communities and issues which would otherwise have gained little or no attention because they are often under-reported.

    As a visually impaired person himself, he considers blind persons as members of his immediate community. In service to this community, he started Accessibility 360 with the aim of researching, informing, educating and training other blind persons to use assistive and mainstream technology. 

    He is motivated to do this because, according to him, his own achievements are largely the result of technology’s impact in equipping the blind to fit and compete in school, at work, at play and in other spheres of life. 

    So far, at least 100 blind persons in Lagos and its surrounding towns come together through Accessibility 360 to learn, share ideas and resolve each other's challenges with technology via a WhatsApp group and on Facebook.

    Efunkoya is also interested in marketing communication, social media, public speaking, small businesses, media research, leadership and management.

    The communication professional and accessible technology enthusiast/trainer is an alumni of the President Barack Obama-initiated Young African Leaders Initiative and LEAP Africa’s Young Leadership Programme.

    Efunkoya was the best graduating student in the 2009 class at the University of Lagos’ Mass Communication Department with a cumulative grade point of 4.36 of a possible 5.00 and where he also received numerous awards.

    He has a Masters degree in Communication and Language Arts from the University of Ibadan and also attended Loyola Jesuit College.

    When he is not working, you are likely to find him reading, listening to music or in conversation with someone. He loves traveling and meeting people.

    Efunkoya would be telling us about his struggles, What were his redefining moments, the two most important steps he took differently, what were the aftermath, and what lessons he would like you to take away from his story.

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    Friday, 9 June 2017

    Repositioning Yourself for Success - Pelumi Obisesan (Founder, Teens Going for Gold Network))

    Repositioning Yourself for Success - Pelumi Obisesan  (Founder, Teens Going for Gold Network))


    How would you feel when your mother say to you, "I never prayed for a child like you." This was the reality of our guest today at some point in her life.

    Today's episode of Lead Your Life Series features the brief story of how Pelumi Obisesan went from being an all-round failure as a teenager to the point where she discovers the way to succeed. Today, she is helping teenagers move from mediocrity to excellence.

    Lead Your Life Series, is a special edition of Lead Your Life Podcast. We share real life experiences of how personal struggles and seeming setbacks were turned into phenomenal stories of hope and grace.

    About Pelumi Obisesan

     Pelumi Obisesan  (Founder, Teens Going for Gold Network))

    Pelumi Obisesan is a civic leader that inspires, educates and empowers teenagers on their path to self-discovery, encouraging them to live more purposeful lives.

    She is the Founder of Teens Going for Gold Network and convener of Project Inspire and Editor-in-Chief of the TeenAchiever bulletin. In her own words, "my passion is to see young persons especially teenagers excel in their chosen fields."

    A graduate of International Studies and Diplomacy from the University of Benin, Nigeria, Pelumi is also passionate about the peace and development of the African Continent.

    She is currently a recipient of ECOWAS Nnamdi Azikiwe Mobility Scholarship at Cheik Anta Diop University where she is studying for her Masters degree.

    Pelumi would be telling us about her struggles, What were her redefining moments, the two most important steps she took differently, what were the aftermath, and what lessons she would like you to take away from her story.

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    Friday, 2 June 2017

    Dealing with Depression - Toluse Francis (Founder, The Mind and Health Center)



    Dealing with Depression - Toluse Francis (Founder, The Mind and Health Center)


    The World Health Organisation (WHO) in its 2017 World Health Day message says over 7 million Nigerians suffer from one of the most ignored and misunderstood form of mental disorder in the country – depression. 

    Today's episode of Lead Your Life Series features the brief story of how Toluse Francis fell into depression and how he eventually got out.Today, he is helping people with similar experience find true happiness.


    Lead Your Life Series, is a special edition of Lead Your Life Podcast. We share real life experiences of how personal struggles and seeming setbacks were turned into phenomenal stories of hope and grace.

    About Toluse Francis

    Founder, The Mind and Health Center
    Toluse Francis

    Toluse Francis was born in Nigeria. He is passionate about seeing people live healthy and productive.

    He obtained his Bachelors degree from Bowen University, Osun State Nigeria.

    He obtained diplomas in Mental Health Studies and Human Nutrition respectively from Alison Educational Institute in the Republic of Ireland. Toluse also obtained his psychology certification from same institute.

    He is a Certified Life Coach and Master Practitioner, Neuro-linguistic programming by the American Union of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

    He helps people live through the past or present that may want to threaten their future. This is seen in his mental health help to people ranging from eating disorders to depression, low self-esteem to mention just a few.

    He is deeply moved towards the total wellness of the human race.

    His core message is to make sure that everyone possess a renewed mind, illuminated spirit and a healthy body.

    He is the author is Eat Fit: a Nutritional Blueprint for Healthy Living as well as on Amazon stores worldwide.
    A Blogger, writer and speaker. He blogs and has his podcasts called the Eat Fit Podcast at tolufrancis.com as well as iTunes.

    He is the founder of The Mind and Health Center. A group dedicated to helping people take control of their minds and live healthy lives.

    Volunteering for Solid Foundation Teens and Youth Ministry since 2008 as a teen educator and counselor.

    Interested in Mind health, therapy and recovery, he has featured on various media discussion the issue of mental health especially depression.

    He was a nominee in the Nigerian Writers Award of 2016 in the Health Writer of the Year Category and a recipient of the Nigeria Blogs Awards 2015 as Health Blogger of the Year.

    He is a recipient of the Nigerian Writers Award in the Health Writer Category for 2017.

    He loves to travel, design websites, take up challenges and help people. You can reach him through the various social media platforms. Toluse resides in Lagos, South West Nigeria.

    Toluse would be telling us about his struggles, What were his redefining moments, the two most important steps he took differently, what were the aftermath, and what lessons he would like you to take away from his story.

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    Tuesday, 30 May 2017

    Man; Know Thyself



    It’s very possible that some people may not want to be bothered about the subject I engage in this write-up.

    Nonetheless, there are a few persons who will purse to reflect on what it is my creative mind is about to barf out on this subject matter, “Man, Know Thyself”, which is also a challenging expression made by the great colossus, Socrates of whom I am now more than ever before particularly studying his life and how he influenced his pupils. 

    Socrates, Jesus (Whom the Christians call Christ), Mahatma Gandhi, Pythagoras and a host of other thought leaders opined on the importance of knowing oneself as a way of achieving great success.

    However, the problem with my generation — this one that I am forever intertwined with — is that only a few persons have made conscious decisions to travel the road less taken. Others unwittingly continue to travel the route of frivolities, superficiality, trivialities, triteness and shallowness. 

    The wise thought of E. E. Cummings rings loudly here. According to him, “To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.”

    The question is: What battle are we talking about? I daresay it’s a battle of the mind.

    In the words of Martha Cherian, “The Mind is a powerful instrument. Every thought, every emotion that you create changes the very chemistry of your body…”

    Yes, the mind is a very powerful instrument of discovering oneself and it constantly draws one towards fulfilling their dreams. However, you will need to first do what I like to call “Exploration”, then you move to the stage of “Discovery”, after which you should “Enhance” your discovery in order to live a life filled with limitless success.

    Let’s get back to that ‘mind’ thing. How many young minds today have learned or have given it a thought to peep into their mind as to think of what it is that makes them tick. Do they even know why they are here in the first place? I bet they don’t!

    A certain sage noted instructively that, “Knowledge of oneself is the only real knowledge, for as one understands oneself, only then may one truly understand another.”

    And Pythagoras affirmed that remark lucidly when he encouraged thus: “Man know thyself; then thou shalt know the universe and God.”

    You see, you can’t truly claim to ‘know’ when you are yet to have a proper and in-depth knowledge of yourself -- like who you are; why you are here; and why you act the way you do.

    Listen to this, for every global transformation, there is always a personal transformation. Gandhi said to “Be the change you wish to see in the world”. Now, that’s the gamut of self-discovery and its importance to global transformation! 

    I believe that knowing oneself is a springboard for knowledge of external objects. When you have studied and know yourself, you position yourself well to know everything that goes on around you. That’s when you are able to come to the place of versatility and resourcefulness!

    Okay, to go by the Socratic Rule of Questioning, what is self-discovery?

    Self-discovery is the process by which one perused into their inner-recess to discover something peculiar to their person, something that distinguishes them from the rest of the packs. A very simple way of answering that question is to say, self-discovery is tantamount to purpose -- to living a purpose-filled life. 

    The truth is that you are more powerful than you know and they (your friends, your siblings, your parents, in short, the world) fear the day you know it.

    So, dear reader, I plead with you to take your time to explore your mind in order to discover your truest potential. And after your discovery, develop it and it will yield to an endless success. 

    Before I shut down the outflow of words from where it springs, I will not shy away from emphasizing the truth. And this truth is simply that you take your time to know yourself, for it is in doing so that you truly start to move towards your God-inspired mandate (Gen 1:26-28).

    Oh wait…

    I culled the last stanza of Robert Frost’s poem “The Road Not taken” and I’d love to share it here with you. I’m sure it will further reinforce my challenge on the unavoidable necessity of self-discovery:

    “I shall be telling this with a sigh
    Somewhere ages and ages hence:
    Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
    I took the one less traveled by,
    And that has made all the difference.”

    When you travel the road of self-discovery, you will inevitably and indelibly leave a mark on the sand of time, of history.

    About Author: Sam Adeyinka is a freelance writer, business journalist, thought leader, talented podcaster, online business coach. He writes to you from the ancient city of Oyo State, Nigeria.
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    Friday, 26 May 2017

    [LYLS02] - The Search for Personal Identity - Feyisayo Adanlawo (Founder, Treasure House Foundation)


    Lead Your Life Series, is a special edition of Lead Your Life Podcast. We would be  sharing real life experiences of how personal struggles and seeming setbacks were turned into phenomenal stories of hope and grace.

    Joseph Campbell said, "Our true reality is in our identity and unity with all life." There are many people out there who are living like strangers to themselves. Today's episode features the story of how Feyisayo Adanlawo struggled with finding her Personal Identity due to her childhood experiences.


    About Feyisayo Adanlawo

    The founder/lead volunteer of Treasure House Foundation
    Feyisayo is a serial entrepreneur and a personal development expert. The founder/lead volunteer of Treasure House Foundation where She focuses on teenagers and young adults, working particularly in sexual assault, sexual related addictions and emotional trouble cases. 

    She links them up with experts that would help them (psychologists, therapists, and even medical services) she also make free skill training available to them as a tool for rehabilitation and reintegration into the society.

    She is also the business head of Accentuate Cleaning Services Ltd. She also owns her personal shopping brand.



    Feyisayo would be telling us about her struggles, What were her redefining moments, the two most important steps she took differently, what were the aftermath, and what lessons she would like you to take away from her story.

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    Tuesday, 23 May 2017

    #YALIPERIENCE PT2 - YALI RLC West Africa Partipants Share their 5 Weeks Experience at ASCON Campus


    Recommended: #YALIPERIENCE - YALI RLC West Africa Partipants Share their 5 Weeks Experience at ASCON Campus (Part 1)

     

    The Young African Leaders Initiative, Regional Leadership Center, Accra Ghana. YALI RLC, is a fully funded flagship program of the US Government initiated by former President Obama to invest in the next generation of African Leaders.

    It's almost two months since I Completed the 5 weeks YALI RLC onsite training. I have gotten involved in a couple of projects since then as I get the chance to implement what i have learnt.

    Not too long ago, I got some of my YALI Colleagues to share their experiences with me. There were 22 African leaders who shared their experiences. After publishing those stories, 7 more leaders indicated their interest to share. 

    I have had their responses in my google drive for weeks. I wouldn't want their efforts to be in vain. So I have repented and put this up for you to read.

    Enjoy the read!

    #1 Imafidon Ayemere/Nigerian/Entrepreneurship Consultant/BDS

     
    YALI RLC WEST AFRICA

    I help entrepreneurs and social enterprise to grow their small businesses particularly in the areas of fund assessment(Grants and Loans) and innovative developmental strategies. I prepare and train on business plan creation and implementation.

    Prior to the 5 weeks YALI in class training, I had almost lost touch with the humanitarian and social enterprising part of my life. Years back, I started my entrepreneurial life more as a humanitarian volunteer worker and social problem solver. Then I prioritized solving social problems amongst young people over genuine wealth creation but I later derailed on that noble calling. I shifted focus to wealth building!

    Having gone through the 5weeks YALI life-changing leadership incubation process, I am now a brand new and better Social Entrepreneur. Having been inspired to unlearned, relearned and learn from amazing people (co-participants and facilitators), I am now reuniting with my first love- solving humanitarian problems and creating social values before wealth creation. Hence, I went, saw and conquered my fears. THIS IS THE YALI IN ME!!!  

    #2 Atem Arabella/Cameroonian/Educational Instructor

     
    YALI RLC WEST AFRICA
     
     
    I am the CEO of Education and Health For Training Youths, Women and girls on Vocational skills and offering better Health Services
     
    Before YALI , I trained youths , girls and women in vocational skills such as interior and exterior decor designs, beaded jewelry, cake making,hats and bags in a small scale and some times individually.
     
     
    After YALI I had a great dream. The EHAF lifestyle Village which will incubate all of the vocations and others as well as services attached to the vocational training skills. 
     

    #3 Ojo Adefisayo/Nigerian/Educationist

     
     
    YALI RLC WEST AFRICA
     
    An enthusiastic and knowledge Educationist who specializes on teaching of mathematics and sciences 
     
    Thanks to YALI Regional Leadership Center, West Africa, Accra an initiative of Barack Obama, The former president of The United State of America for given me the opportunity to unlearn, learn and relearn. All glory to God for the wonderful Experience I had during the 5 weeks leadership training and networking with the future leaders of Africa and the world. 
     
     Before YALI Regional leadership Cohort 2, I didn’t have the understanding that as an educationist, I can also involve my myself in NGOs and expand my coast through networking. I was single focused on teaching alone. 

    As an Educationist who has the passion to inculcate knowledge and skills to empower students , attending YALI Regional Leadership program endowed in me the knowledge ,skills and the professionalism I need to improve myself , the right attitude towards my field and profession. Above all, the leadership ability to be a good leader in my sphere. After the program, I have seen lots of positive changes and additions in my ability and skills, opportunities are been explored daily and networking with professionals
     

    #4 Marvellous Olowe/Nigerian/Banker&Entrepreneur

     
    YALI RLC WEST AFRICA
     
    I help bank customers with financial transactions as a customer service representative of a Bank. I am a CEO of Rytechoix Global Merchandise and Rytechoix Global Errands Companies.
     
    Before YALI, There are so many things that I lack as an aspiring leader.i.e. finding it difficult to interact with people, public speaking nightmare, procrastination, failure to exercise my thinking ability, failure to implement ideas. I always keep my ideas to myself, thinking I don't have what it takes to actualize them. 
     
    Can you believe that I had same idea as X-MEN Ghana long time ago but lack of self confidence and fear of survival to quit my Banking job buried the lifestyle grooming services idea. I started petty business within neighborhood but I couldn't visualize it.
     
    I will definitely be grateful to God for Former USA President (Obama) initiative and Co-Yalians who stood by me during my 5 weeks training at YALI RLC ASCON COHORT 2 in Badagry Lagos Nigeria. My insights and ideas were seriously kindled. Seun Onigbide and Leap Africa Rep inspired me in the sense that I can actual leave my Banking job in pursuing of my passion without fear of survival. I can confidently think of an idea and implement it without procrastinating. 
     
    Guess what? My Dormant registered company is back alive. I am currently working on my sub-company which will be published very soon. I got this idea during an entrepreneurship session at YALI. YALI in me is the beginning of Greater height.
     

    #5 Ekpo Mfonobong Grace/Nigerian/Dentist and entrepreneur

     
    YALI RLC WEST AFRICA
     
    I am work with children from low income homes, children with special needs and their caregivers to teach dental health care while giving free treatments to those who require it. I also work to raise awareness about the importance of dental health on the overall quality of life.  

    Before YALI, I saw myself as just a small town dentist helping people; I did not see how I fitted into the larger picture of ensuring a changed Africa. I assumed that to make a difference I had to hold a position or a title. My understanding of ethics and personal branding was limited.
     
     
    After an intensive 5 weeks in badagry, I have a different mindset! I learned that to lead I did not have to hold a position or have a fancy title; I can make a difference from where I am now. And to make this difference, I started working on my non for profit: GIFTED SMILES AFRICA right there in YALI! 
     
    I started talks with the government and stakeholders to see how lasting change can be made in health policy. More importantly I learnt the principles that have transformed me ever since I left YALI; INTERGRITY, CONSISTENCY, BUILDING NETWORKS. YALI broadened my horizon and gave me an opportunity to meet amazing young people who continue to inspire me. Lastly I learned to watch out for those banner headlines as I rise in my field working on building a better Africa.
     

    #6 Efunkoya, Ayoola Stephen/Nigerian/Communications Professional and Accessible Technology Enthusiast/Trainer

     
    YALI RLC WEST AFRICA
     
    I write, edit and report issues in African and international news and produce programmes for a radio station; research, inform, educate and train on the use of technology to enhance the productivity and independence of blind and visually-impaired persons; and deliver talks on life issues.
     
    I started Accessibility 360 long before YALI RLC (Nigeria 2) as a platform to inform, educate and train blind persons to embrace and use assistive technology and adaptations to mainstream technology to enhance their productivity and independence. The initiative however lacked a proper structure, its vision and mission were not clearly defined and its operations and financing were not in line with accepted standards.
     
     
    Since YALI, with the support and encouragement of fellow participant Chineze “Chichi” Oluwasina and banking on Henry Bondzie’s promise of capacity development, Accessibility 360 is now taking on a new shape: We are redefining its vision, mission, values, structure and scope of operations; committed to proper record keeping; set to offer training better suited to the needs of beneficiaries; among other developments. YALI not only brought me in contact with like-minds but also opened my eyes to possibilities, encouraged me to think big even when starting small and through the extracurricular activities of swimming, partying and excursions encouraged me to push beyond every self-imposed limitations. YALI was not just a training. It is a lifestyle, a memorable experience.
     

    #7 Temitope Adegboyega/ Nigeria/Accountant

     
    YALI RLC WEST AFRICA
    I volunteer and advocate for teenagers related projects being a peer educator trainer. I believe most of the decisions we live by are made in our teenage years, and by this it's imperative we teach and mentor teenagers with the right values to aid them in making life decisions.
     
    I was becoming complacent and just let life control me instead of taking charge. I was almost giving up on Nigeria and lost interest in doing those things which add value because it seemed to me nobody cared about doing things the right way away anymore as long as results were gotten.
     
     
    Wow! Yali reinforced my leaarning and woke me up. It was more like the refresher course I needed and meeting young people like myself from across West Africa doing amazing things that is causing a change in their environment. It challenged me and made me realize I still had like-minded people around, and even made me to start taking myself more seriously. I'm ready to take CHARGE. Teamwork and collaborations with people of like- mind is one of the tools that we need to use to get the Africa of our dreams.
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    I hope this inspires you to get started on that dream of yours. You owe it to yourself to Lead Your Life! There is absolutely no one that can stop you from unleashing your greatness (except you). Take that baby step now! It might hurt a little, but trust me, you'd be fine. 

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    Friday, 19 May 2017

    [LYLS01] - The Pursuit for Personal Freedom - Chineze Oluwasina (Founder, GIRL Afrique)




    Winston Churchill said, "Mountaintops inspire leaders, but valleys mature them."

    Men and women discover themselves during their days in the valley. Those Valley experiences prepare them for the mountaintop.  

    However, the key to successfully move through the valley is personal leadership. 

    Sadly, when some people hear about personal leadership, they think about perfection.

    Personal leadership is never on the premise that you are a perfect being. The basic ideology is that your are to take  responsibility for your life outcomes.

    It has never been an issue of acting perfect. It's recognizing that you are on a journey. And the end of the journey is greatly dependent on the decisions you take per time.

    It's on this note that I bring to you Lead Your Life Series.

    If you follow me on any of my social media channels, you would have seen me share about "Lead Your Life Series."

    It's a special edition of Lead Your Life Podcast. We would be  sharing real life experiences of how personal struggles and seeming setbacks were turned into phenomenal stories of hope and grace.

    You won't be hearing my voice. I would feature different people from different works of life. 

    Basically, I hope to inspire and empower you to begin or continue taking responsibility for your own life outcomes as you aspire to live a life of impact and fulfillment.

    Today, we launch Lead Your Life Series with the first episode. 

    I have a phenomenal lady this week.


    About Chineze Oluwasina


    Chineze Oluwasina (fondly called Chichi) is a young and passionate strategist with core competence in team building and organizational structure. Chichi was born in Ibadan, Nigeria on the 24th of October.

    She graduated from the Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife with a Bachelor of Science (Agriculture) and currently rounding off her Masters Degree in Agronomy from the University of Ibadan, Nigeria.

    Chichi believes in given herself over to continuous learning, thus she has a diploma in Social Work and strategic management from the Open Training Institute.

    Chichi is currently involved in community development and agricultural research. She is a sought after facilitator for several profit and non- profit organizations with focus on team building, project management, leadership and communication skills.

    Her agricultural research aims at helping community farmers have access to improved cassava varieties. She is a Research Fellow at the International Institute of Tropical Agriculture.

    She was nominated to attend the Global Leadership Submit 2016 in Indonesia and the One Young World Submit 2016 in Ottawa. She obtained a MasterCard scholarship to learn Foundations for Entrepreneurial Leadership at the African Leadership Academy, Johannesburg.

    She is currently a cohort-2 participant of the Young African Leaders Initiative, Regional Leadership Centre, Accra, Lagos Campus. She has just been nominated as the International Coordinator for Consortium of Young African Civil Society Organizations.

    Her passion to see inner city girls rise above every prejudice associated with her background and gender, Chichi founded GIRL Afrique, a budding organization aimed at helping inner city girls harness their potentials by equipping them with relevant skills to make informed decisions.

    She enjoys facilitating, playing lawn tennis and swimming. She is happily married to her campus sweetheart who is also in the development sector.

    Chichi would be telling us about her struggles, What were her redefining moments, the two most important steps she took differently, what were the aftermath, and what lessons she would like you to take away from her story.

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    Monday, 8 May 2017

    6 Terrific Ways to set your Goals Wrongly

    Goals setting, first thing first, personal leadership, lead your life



    There Is absolutely no way we can talk about true success without considering goal setting. Goal setting is at the core of leadership.

    Would it not be great to know how you can set your goals wrongly?

    When it comes to the subject of leadership and personal development, another fundamental concept after identity, purpose and vision, is goal setting.

    There are literally thousands of materials and programs on this subject from notable authorities. Talk about books, courses, workshops, seminars, conferences, and coaching.

    There are hundreds of thousands of materials at your disposal. However, many still get it muddled up when it comes to the actual application.

    It's very likely that at some point you have set goals or tried to set your goals wrongly. In this blog post, you would learn about these wrong approaches.

    By the way, before you think I am about to lecture you on SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time bound) Goals, or even BHAG (Big Hairy Audacious Goals), knock yourself out.

    Those are very important concepts, but this is way different from the norm. Let's get into the six ways you set goals wrongly.

    1. Setting goals without developing competence


    Goal setting goes beyond writing a task to be completed on a paper with a deadline. In other to be successful, one must include in steps, the processes required to complete that task. A section of this process that you need to pay attention to is personal development.

    Many do not realise the importance of personal development. The degree to which you succeed in life, business, relationship, etc, is a function of your competence.

    Competence is simply the extent to which you can deliver on the job/task. It can be measured by skill, knowledge, qualifications, and ability.

    For example, Bob is a young aspiring Basketball player. His goal is to beat all Michael Jordan's records in 5 years.

    Note: Lebron James already broke some of Michael's records

    It would be absolutely impossible for Bob to reach this goal by doing just the same thing every other person does. He would have to develop the competence to pull such great feat. He would require a great deal of self discipline.

    I like to say often that failure is inevitable when your competence and capacity doesn't match up with your goals.

    To develop competence you need to be committed to daily never ending improvement and learning.

    Don't go about setting goals without considering in details what it would require of you. Every dream comes with a cost.


    2. Setting goals without ethical standards



    Life is beyond acquiring accolades and fame. On several occasions we have read about a public figure who got indicted because of a shady character.

    Many get desperate and thereby get their hands dirty, all in the name of wanting to reach their goals.

    I wouldn't deny the fact that the world we live in is tough. There are endless circumstances and people that attempt to stiffen the process of reaching ones goals.

    However this is no excuse for bridging universal principles of integrity, honesty, kindness, love, and service.


    3. Setting goals without accountability partner(s)


    No goal can be achieved in isolation. No vision can materialize in isolation.

    Show me any person who have succeeded and has now become a global phenomenon, and I will show you an accountable person.

    I was in a conversation with a friend and she said, "I am highly suspicious of people who just show up from no where and we have no record of who they were answerable to."

    It makes sense to me. In reaching your goals in life, you need people that would hold you accountable. You need people that will look you in the face and inspire you when you are weak. You need people that will look you in the face and scold you when you are slacking.

    It could be a coach, trainer, mentor, or friend.

    The reason you have not been up to date on your goals may just be the absence of accountability partner(s).


    4. Setting goals without respecting the process of time



    Personal leadership is a journey, and so is success. Do not attempt to rush your way to success. You won't last long there.

    Processes are meant to equip you for success. It helps make sure you can replicate your success at anytime.

    Many people, especially young folks are in a hurry to be on the spot light. They forget that the only way they can stand the test of time is to be rooted and built upwards.

    The height of a building is determined by the foundation. The height of a tree is determined by the depth of its roots. My question for you is this - what kind of structure are you building?

    There is absolutely no way you expect to have a child without waiting for nine months after conception. Even if the child comes out prematurely, he/she has to be incubated.

    In life, there are three category of people with dreams. Those who arrive Pre-maturely; Those who arrive maturely; and those who arrive Post-maturely. Where do you want to belong?


    5. Setting goals based primarily on external motivations



    One of the most powerful questions you can ask yourself is, "Why do I do what I do?"

    In chapter 2 of my book, Lead Your Life, I shared my story of how I discovered at some point in my life, I was trying so hard to prove a point to myself and to my family. This was a great level of self awareness I entered into. It transformed the way I now see life, with respective to achievement.

    I have seen people who have achieved a great deal of things, but still feel inferior. They are victims of self sabotage. They keep comparing themselves to others.


    At least 95% of people have at one point or another encounter thoughts and feelings of inadequacy (evelynlim.com).

    If you are setting goals just to compete with people in your circle, you will never be satisfied.

    It's quite unfortunate that with the advent of social media, many are falling victim to this. There are a lot of make-believe - people posing to be what they are not. If you do not have a strong foundation of this principle, you will end up crashing.

    Everyone has some degree of external motivation when setting goals. However, it's imperative that you have a strong inner conviction based on personal fulfilment.


    6. Setting goals without focusing on priorities



    I believe everyone knows one person who is a passionate goal-getter but most times expends energy on irrelevant things.

    Stephen R. Covey, the foremost authority on the concept of personal leadership said, "The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing."

    It might look like a nice play of words but there are a great number of lessons to infer from that quote. It's like an affirmation to the ancient 80/20 rule.

    Don't confuse activity with accomplishments. Don't be busy doing nothing. Learn to identify those 20% important things in your life and focus on them per time.

    In the end, what we all truly want is to know that we truly lived out lives doing what we truly loved and found fulfilment in.

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    Conclusion

    I know you desire a better life, job, relationship, family, and business. We all do. We have learnt over time that we need to set goals but you and I know that's not enough. Flip through your journal and you will find some goals that have been sitting there for a long time.

    I crave your indulgence to use these six tips I shared to find where you belong. I would love you to tell me about it below. Which of them are you guilty about?

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