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  • Wednesday, 15 February 2017

    7 Reasons Why You Should Share Your Creativity Online

    creativity, share your passion online, online influencer

    Impressionists claimed that there are as many realities as there are human minds and this is not far from the truth at all. When you look at it, no matter what you decide to make, you have to make an investment in it first. An idea is the only thing that can be made out of nothing (apart from mental effort). Everyone has a story to tell and here are seven reasons why you should share your creativity with others. As it happens, in this day and age, such a thing is easiest to do online.

    1. Give Others a Piece of Your Mind

    While words alone were able to start wars and save the world in the past, in a myriad of voices it is not likely that yours will be the one to make a difference. On the other hand, if there is a tiniest chance of your idea changing something, you need to share it with the rest of the world. Still, changing things for better shouldn’t be your only motivations. Sometimes simply letting others know how you feel can help people understand you better or give you an exhaust vent.

    2. You Don’t Have to Be the Best

    For various reasons, today, there are more amateur writers right now than ever before. Unfortunately, many people get too discouraged by the phobia of not being good enough. They compare themselves to the greatest artists of all times; so, if their story isn’t as good as that of Shakespeare or Orwell, they won’t publish it. Following this logic, any writer who is considered worse than them should keep their works hidden from the eyes of the public. Well, in that case, there would be only a handful of literary pieces out there, which would turn this world into a much darker place. Finally, there is always a chance that your piece of work will become someone’s personal favourite.

    3. Finding People Like You

    In this cold, modern world, it can be extremely hard to find a kindred spirit. One of the easiest ways to do so is by browsing ideas of others and connecting to those who find your ideas fascinating. For example, if I you like expressing yourself through cooking and preparing exotic meals, you can easily find new recipes and research food photography online. You’ll see there are so many people who share your passion. This way, by exchanging ideas, you are connecting with people on a much deeper level.

    4. Trying Something New

    Another reason why you should share your creativity online is that it is usually a completely new experience. There is no better way to grow as a person than to try something new. Needless to say, it takes an insane amount of courage to show your work to other people and expose your skills and creativity to their judgement. Keep in mind that this is an experience you can only benefit from.

    5. Completely Anonymous

    There is nothing easier than making a persona online and uploading your work under someone else’s name. Seeing how this method offers complete anonymity, it is something that can even work for introverts. This way, if later on you ever come to regret your choice (although there is no reason for it), you can simply back out and no one will be able to connect you with your work.

    6. Internet is Objective

    A lot of people claim that things said on the internet can’t be taken seriously because people online are mean. In reality, things are completely different. First of all, since people online don’t have to play nice (aforementioned anonymity), they are much more likely to be honest about their opinion. Those mean people would probably think the same thing in person as well, only lack the courage to state their honest opinion. For all these reasons, online comments are much more likely to be objective and unbiased.

    7. Find Your Voice

    A lot of people find a way to identify themselves with the work they create. Putting it all out there can greatly help since after you make your work public and stand behind it, you will get a completely new perspective on it. If you get some recognition or gratification for it, all the better.


    Sure, all of the above-mentioned reasons were pretty idealistic although there are some more materialistic ones as well (especially if you’re not sharing your creativity for free). So, find something that fulfils you and express your feelings and thoughts through some creative work. As you can see above, there are plenty of reasons you should follow through with your plan.

    About the Author: Peter is a lifestyle writer located in Brisbane, Australia. After graduating from Australian Institute of Creative Design, he worked as a trend forecaster and as a freelance writer for few local newspapers in Brisbane. Beside writing, he loves shopping, cooking exotic meals and travelling around tropical destinations. He’s future plans are in creating his personal lifestyle blog about everyday life-saving tips.

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    Friday, 10 February 2017

    Your Excuses are Not Your Problems

    SELF leadsership, productivity, self awareness

    “When I lost all my excuses, I found my results.” -Anonymous

    Do you have any big project you want to do and feel that certain things must be in place before you start? What are your excuses? Do they involve money, new skill, new environment, new set of cloths, a university degree, and certain tools?

    You see, I have come to realize over the years that our excuses are not actually our problems, as you keep reading I will unveil to you what the real problem is.

    There was a little boy whose goal in life was to be happy, just like I and you would always say about our dreams, he said to himself, when I become a big boy I will do this and this and I will be happy. And when he becomes a big boy he says when I finish college and do this and this I will be happy. And when he finishes college he says when I get my first job I will do this and this and I will be happy. And when he gets his first job he says when I get married I will do this and this and I will be happy. And when he gets married he says when the kids get out of school and I do this and this I will be happy. And when the kids get out of school he says when I retire and do this and this I will be happy. And when he retires what does he see? He sees life has gone by in front of his eyes.

    Does your approach to dream have any resemblance to that of this little boy? Many years ago, there are certain dreams I left pending because I felt certain things must be in place before I start. For example I use to think I needed to become a graduate before I should implement certain goals. Believe me after graduation, I started thinking I needed some other certifications before I can start, my excuses go on and on until I realized that it was getting too late.

    When I heard about blogging, I was really passionate about sharing my thoughts with the world using blog as my platform, but I realize I needed a laptop to get started. I set goal to get a laptop, eventually I got it, but you won’t believe that it took me another two years before I eventually started the blog. Why does it take so long? It took so long because I had another excuse, that my writing skill was not good enough, that people will laugh at my articles. After I worked on that and I improved a little, another set of excuses sets in, you know what they were? I started feeling that my blog must be a world class blog , that I needed to get my own domain to start, that I needed to improve my vocabularies. That was how my excuses kept increasing.

    A time came when I stood against all my excuses. I summon courage to start anyhow. I resolved within me that I must start, that I won’t allow my excuses to keep holding me. I agreed to make a fool of myself. I decided to start where I was and with what I had.

    At last I started the blog using google’s blogger platform. My URL looks like this, but I didn’t care. I started writing post. Some of my friends would call me and advise me to ensure that always do proper editing of my work, I started improving based on their feedback. Since I started about two years ago, I have written articles that have gone viral. 

    I have received messages on Whatsapp and Facebook from people across the nation appreciating me for giving them useful information and inspiration through my articles. Many of my articles have been published on Nairaland’s front page, with wide acceptance of my ideas as valid and useful. I have written guest posts for other personal development bloggers. Most of the people I met online discovered me through that same blog. I have written and self-published my first book, and currently working on the second.

    How did I accomplish all these? I did so just for one reason, because I started even when I thought I didn’t have all it takes.

    The purpose of my ranting so far is to make you realize on thing, that your excuses are not your problem. You will be surprised that even after having some of the things you think should be in place before you can start living your dreams, you may eventually not start. If that has been your lifestyle, it is high time you stopped.

    What is your dream? What are your goals, what is holding you back? Why not start now with what you have? You see, if you didn’t start now, few years from now you will regret you didn’t start today.

    With starting comes experience, and with experience comes mastery. The ease with which I generate writing ideas, and the confidence with which I present my message today wouldn’t have been mine if I had sat at the valley of “when this and this is in place.”

    I made a promise in the second paragraph that I would tell you what your problem is. Your problems are not your excuses, your problem is INDISCIPLINE. You procrastinate simply because you are not discipline enough to force yourself to start even when every part of you is holding you back.

    The opposite of indiscipline is DISCIPLINE, “it is that ability to do what you need to do at a given time whether you feel like it or not.”

    Now do you actually feel it is high time you started living your dreams? If your answer yes, then find a way to play around your excuses and start anyhow. Abraham Ologundudu once shared how he started sharing his thoughts online using his Nokia c1. He didn’t wait until he had everything he needed, and today, you can see what that has evolved into.

    Every big thing started small. Those who are at the top today were once at the bottom. No one got it right from the beginning. Everybody started from where they were and with what they had. Today most of them have become excessively successful in their various fields.

    If you are still in doubt, do you know that Mark Zuckerberg started Facebook in the dormitory? Do you know that Steve Jobs started Apple in his adopted parents’ garage? Do you know that Linda Ikeji started her blog with google’s blogger platform? Do you know that David attacked Goliath with what he had, a sling and five smooth stone?

    If you keep waiting for the perfect time, you will wake up one day, and find out that your life has gone before your very eyes.

    Why not start today? Kick off your excuses, embrace what you have and start.

    Job said, “though you started with little, you will end with much.”

    About Author:Taiwo Emayosanlomo is success coach, personal development blogger and a motivational speaker. He helps people to live their lives on PURPOSE, grow CONSCIOUSLY and EXPAND. He is the author of Winning Paradigm for Tough times( a practical guide to overcoming the obstacles to success). To read more of his articles, you can visit his blog at Contacts, Whatsapp: 08063027629, Facebook, Twitter, Google+( Taiwo Emayosanlomo).

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    Thursday, 19 January 2017

    Birthday Giveaway: Win a Free Digital Copy of My New Book - Lead Your Life

    On the 30th of January 2016 I will be 22 years old. I would also be launching my new book: Lead Your Life.

    I am a product of grace. The last 6 years of my life just like so many persons out there, has been full of failures and successes. My new book, LEAD YOUR LIFE is a broad overview of what it will take you to truly live the life you were designed for.

    I am privileged to have discovered purpose at an early stage in life. All the major lessons and principles that I have learnt and aligned my life with is summed up in LEAD YOUR LIFE.

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    I started this journey at 15 with my first online community, Royal Youths Forum. It was at that point a motivational group, and we had over 600 teenagers and youths.

    The following year I discovered blogging and that was the beginning of amazing things yet. My platform has evolved since then. We have birth the Leverage Conference brand and the latest is Lead Your Life Podcast.

    You may not appreciate all these stories. I know the struggles I have gone through in my life. 

    I was once this guy who didn't matter, who had a massive inferiority complex, and was a chronic porn addict since 12, until 15.

    I have come to discover the one thing that matters most in the making of legends; It is SELF LEADERSHIP. You can only produce results that is commensurate with who you are. If you cannot lead your life, you will play catch up. and remain at the bottom of the food chain.

    My life has been dedicated to helping people from all over the world harness the power of SELF LEADERSHIP. The key to national transformation is collective individual transformation. It is high time you get up an give yourself the permission to unleash you greatness.

    I have decided to give away a free copy of my new book to 22 lucky winners. Yes, no beef! 22 people, because I will turn 22 on that day.

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    Entering this giveaway is quite simple and straight to the point. It will run from 2oth January 2017 to 29th January 2017. 

    For each entry you choose, you earn 5 points. The more your points, the more your chances to be picked winner. You can share your URL on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc. You can even post about the giveaway on your blog and link to it using your unique URL. 

    I wish you good luck!

    "Be Phenomenal or be Forgotten." - John Obidi

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    Thursday, 5 January 2017

    How to Apply the Law of Familiarity to Attract your Goals [Podcast]

    It is a new year, and the race has begun. I am assuming you have set goals and you are really looking forward to to attract the goals into your life. Once again, you have hope that you can really make things happen in you life. Nothing can stand in your way because you are now invisible.

    This is what it feel like in the heads of many at this time of the year. We all want to smash our goals and upgrade our lives. We want more money, better relationships, more accolades, more clients, and the list goes on.

    Achieve goals in 2017, goal setting, achieve success in 2017

    This is really a good thing. But what if I tell  you there is a way to hack your brain, so that your goal execution process becomes easier? Oh yes, there is a way.

    The law of of familiarity, which is one of the six laws in Gestalt Psychology can help you create the right perception you need to succeed. Understanding this law can help you create the right experiences that will help you attract your goals.



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    In this episode, you will learn about the law of familiarity, and two direct applications that will simplify the theory into practicable tips.

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    • Why do a large number of people find it difficult to follow through on their goals?
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    Tuesday, 3 January 2017

    The Leadership Skill No One Really Talks About

    LEADERSHIP, LEADERSHIP SKILLS, Personal leadership,

    The articles discussing leadership that are floating around online could almost compete with all the cat videos out there. 

    And for good reason…

    There is a shortage of strong leaders and the value that they offer is undeniable. The popularity of leadership training and seminars have also risen over time and focus on developing skills like conflict management, strategic communication, team motivation, and the list goes on.

    But with all the dialogue around leadership skills, there is one skill that is rarely mentioned at all. There are many challenges that come with taking on a leadership role, but the most difficult of them all may be the loneliness many of us experience. And although developing the means to deal with this facet of leadership is necessary, it is often overlooked. 

    This article will examine some of the reasons for the loneliness endured by leaders and some strategies deal with it in a healthy way.

    Why is Leadership Lonely?

     “It is strange to be known so universally and yet to be so lonely." -- Albert Einstein

    There are probably many leaders that can relate to the above sentiment. Whether you are a leader on a large or small scale, it can be hard to escape the loneliness that comes with the job. The following points provide some insight into this occurrence: 

    • The Intimidation Factor – Even if you are the friendliest person around, it is likely that others will be intimidated by you. This can create invisible walls between that seem to cut off contact from others.

    •  The “Appropriateness” Factor – When you are in leadership position, it often creates certain boundaries that you must adhere to. This means that it becomes inappropriate to confide in many of your team members as well as to those that you report to. Leaders usually have fewer people that they can turn to for advice, consolation, etc.

    • The “Enforcer” Factor – As a leader, sometimes it becomes necessary to enforce unpopular policies or even dismiss people from your team. This can result in receiving the cold shoulder and unpleasant mutterings from those that report to you. It’s unpleasant but it’s part of the job.

    The reasons above are just a few things that contribute to the loneliness that plague those of us in leadership positions. In the next section, we’ll outline a few ways to deal with this aspect of leadership. 

    Moving Through the Grips of Loneliness

    Even if you’re currently plagued with feelings of isolation, it is possible to relieve them and develop more balance. There are a variety of strategies that you can use to develop this skill, which include the following: 

    •  Develop Strong Relationships with Your Team: Even though there are certain boundaries that you should probably adhere to, it doesn’t mean that you can’t have healthy relationships with your team members. Employ reward and recognition to show them that you value them and take the time to interact in meaningful ways. 
    •  Nurture Your Network: The people that you associate with outside of work, such as family and friends are an important part of maintaining balance as a leader. Make sure to maintain these relationships and you may also benefit from employing a coach, mentor, or therapist to provide additional support. The strong community can be a powerful way to alleviate loneliness. 
    • Learn to Appreciate Solitude: Humans are not designed to be alone for extended periods, but that doesn’t mean we can’t use small breaks from others to get in touch with our inner core. Taking this time to meditate or engage in other reflective activities can offer a host of benefits including a greater sense of belonging. 

    Many leaders are surrounded by tons of people and a flurry of activity every single day. However, this does not eliminate the struggle with loneliness. Strong leaders learn how to work with these feelings and overcome them as they pave the way toward greatness. 

    This is an article by a guest contributor, Annabelle Smyth.

    Leadership guest contributor on seasoned life journal

    Annabelle Smyth is a freelance writer who covers everything from HR to technology and leadership skills. Her partnership marketing relationships have given her the opportunity to truly delve into the inner workings of the business world, which she enjoys sharing through her writing.

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    Monday, 2 January 2017

    Lead Your Life: How to Guarantee Yourself an Awesome 2017

    Personal leadership, personal effectiveness for 2017

    Happy New Year!

     I believe there is so much excitement in the air for you. You see the new year as an opportunity for a  fresh start. Most likely, you already blast yourself with goals and resolutions, and probably feel like the incredible hulk. Anything standing on your way this year must get smashed.

    However, with the passage of time, just like the previous years, a major number of people will actually disappear from the scene. The same old routine begins again.

    Have you ever been in a situation where you said, "Tomorrow, I would do it differently?" And the day came, but you didn't do anything differently.

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    Wednesday, 28 December 2016

    Top 10 Popular Posts that Rocked this Blog in 2016

    Seasoned Life, Personal Leadership, Inspirational blogs in Nigeria

    Compliments of the season! I hope you are enjoying the holidays!

    Every year since 2015, I compile the top 10 popular post written that year. Last year, I only picked the best five. Let's call it a yearly tradition.  

    The year 2016 was quite challenging for me. However, I can say those experiences helped me discover more about myself and in the end I got better for it. 

    I crafted a core message around personal leadership this year. So, we now roll with the new tag line: Lead Your Life. Speaking of that, I launched a podcast this year, called LEAD YOUR LIFE SHOW.  So far, we have done 7 episodes. I am grateful to Dayo Samuel of Audacity2Lead for helping me take that leap.

    My team and I hosted the second edition of Leverage Conference this year at the University of Ibadan, Oyo State, Nigeria. Check out the Photos of Leverage Conference 2016

    I also wrote a book, titled No Excuse Challenge. Make sure you download yours if you haven't. 

    I can smell 2017. This year is winding up gradually! Nothing will change in the forthcoming year if you don't change. The only difference is that 6 becomes 7.

    I am sure 2017 will be more awesome because I have gotten more awesome for you. Enjoy my top 10 list.

    10. 12 Resourceful Nigerian Facebook Communities for Smart Entrepreneurs

    The best thing you can do for yourself if you want to grow is to belong to a tribe of people who are living the picture of the kind of experiences you desire. I became an active member of some online communities this year and I decided to share my list with you. Trust me, before the end of the year, more awesome communities came up that were not part of the list. Read more...



    I had an interview with Victor Ekpo Bassey, founder of HPEN. He started the highly paid experts network (HPEN) on the 5th of January 2015 with N10000 and basically built it into a multi million Naira asset in 11 months. At HPEN he is helping individuals build very influential personal brands.  Read more... 

    8. Top 3 Authentic Reasons Why Passion Will Frustrate You

    I discovered that a lot of persons, all in the name of passion keep hitting rock bottom, and their dreams are becoming a night mare. So I decided to share these 3 helpful tips. Passion is only a means to an end. Read more...

    7. How to Take Charge of Your Low Self Esteem Problem

    I received a message in my Facebook inbox. This young man is a 200 Level of Geography and Regional Planning. He wanted to know how he could overcome his timidity and feeling of inferiority. I have been asked this question several times, so I decided to turn it into a full blog post. Read more...

    6. 7 Reasons You Get Frustrated in the Pursuit of Your Dreams

    It seems like I like the word "frustration"? Absolutely not! But I kept observing certain trends in the way people go about their life.  Every man and woman in existence seeks for a certain level of expression. There is an innate thirst for fulfillment - to leave a legacy.
    Based on my observation and research, I came up with some reasons that can make you experience ceaseless frustrations in the pursuit of your dreams. Read more..

    5. From Around the Web: 10 Sensational blog posts that will help you have a spectacular 2016

    As the new year buzz was dying down gradually, I decided to curate a list of blog post other awesome authors have written that could help you really have the remarkable 2016 you desired. Read more..


    4. 7 Expert Entrepreneurs Reveal How to Build a Business Around Your Passion

    I reached out and contacted some top entrepreneurs in different industries in Nigeria with a good track record of success to share with you secrets they discovered would make a difference for any entrepreneur just starting out. Read more...

    3. 3 Ultimate Success Principles You Can Learn From Health Physics

    One of the elective courses I offered in the first semester of my final year in the University was Health Physics. I picked interest in that because I spent two years trying to gain admission to study medicine and surgery but all to no avail. I eventually got offered Physics Education. From my knowledge and experience in the class, I shared 3 evergreen principles that will help you consistently live a successful life which I adapted from one of the health Physics lectures. Read more...

    2. Top 40 Phenomenal Quotes That Will Teach You Self Leadership

    I am on a journey to become one of the future father's of this nation and I am serious about taking many along with me. So I curated some of the phenomenal quotes from people who have directly influenced my life positively in diverse ways. While some are great quotes I found worthy of sharing with you.  Read more...

    1. 32 Nigerian Inspirational/Personal Development Blogs to Follow in 2016.

    In 2015, I was worried there were not enough Nigerian owned Personal Development blogs. So I started to curate lists yearly. One of the reason I have started this yearly list post is to discover more blogs in this niche, celebrate them and also encourage consistency. And so far, I discovered more blogs than I could imagine. 2017 list is also loading. Read more...

    There are so many other resourceful posts I wrote but these were the ones with the highest page views.

    Please share with your friends and drop a comment. Which of these ten was your favourite and why?
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    Monday, 26 December 2016

    Overcoming Your Greatness Inertia - with The Oracle [Podcast]

    Do you know that 99 percent of the time you are the one sabotaging your dreams? 

    More often than not, you permit inertia to take its full course in your life.

    Overcoming Your Greatness Inertia - with The Oracle [Podcast] picture, personal leadership

    The life you live is designed to operate from inside-out. You need to discover those fundamental things that stop you from maximizing your potential. One of them is called "Greatness Inertia".


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    If you don't change the things you did in 2016, your 2017 will remain the same. Absolutely nothing will change, if you do not change.

    I have a guest today, who is a Spoken Word Poet. Heritage Osofowora, is a 17 year old Poet, whose stage name is "The Oracle." This Interview was inspired by his presentation at Leverage conference 2016 (Snippet at the end).  Heritage shares his insights on how you can overcome self inflicted inertia.

    Details Mentioned in this Episode

  • Facebook - Osofowora Heritage

  • Instagram - The Oracle
  • WhatsApp - +234 810 325 0090

  • Over To You 
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    • What is your key take away from this episode? 
    • What is that one thing that seems like an obstacle when you want to get started on your ideas?
    • What do you like about our young guest for this Episode?

    Let me have your response. I am waiting.

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