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  • Thursday, 19 January 2017

    Birthday Giveaway: Win a Free Digital Copy of My New Book - Lead Your Life

    On the 30th of January 2016 I will be 22 years old. I would also be launching my new book: Lead Your Life.

    I am a product of grace. The last 6 years of my life just like so many persons out there, has been full of failures and successes. My new book, LEAD YOUR LIFE is a broad overview of what it will take you to truly live the life you were designed for.

    I am privileged to have discovered purpose at an early stage in life. All the major lessons and principles that I have learnt and aligned my life with is summed up in LEAD YOUR LIFE.


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    I started this journey at 15 with my first online community, Royal Youths Forum. It was at that point a motivational group, and we had over 600 teenagers and youths.

    The following year I discovered blogging and that was the beginning of amazing things yet. My platform www.seasonedlifejournal.com has evolved since then. We have birth the Leverage Conference brand and the latest is Lead Your Life Podcast.

    You may not appreciate all these stories. I know the struggles I have gone through in my life. 


    I was once this guy who didn't matter, who had a massive inferiority complex, and was a chronic porn addict since 12, until 15.

    I have come to discover the one thing that matters most in the making of legends; It is SELF LEADERSHIP. You can only produce results that is commensurate with who you are. If you cannot lead your life, you will play catch up. and remain at the bottom of the food chain.

    My life has been dedicated to helping people from all over the world harness the power of SELF LEADERSHIP. The key to national transformation is collective individual transformation. It is high time you get up an give yourself the permission to unleash you greatness.

    I have decided to give away a free copy of my new book to 22 lucky winners. Yes, no beef! 22 people, because I will turn 22 on that day.



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    Entering this giveaway is quite simple and straight to the point. It will run from 2oth January 2017 to 29th January 2017. 

    For each entry you choose, you earn 5 points. The more your points, the more your chances to be picked winner. You can share your URL on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc. You can even post about the giveaway on your blog and link to it using your unique URL. 

    I wish you good luck!


    "Be Phenomenal or be Forgotten." - John Obidi

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    Thursday, 5 January 2017

    How to Apply the Law of Familiarity to Attract your Goals [Podcast]

    It is a new year, and the race has begun. I am assuming you have set goals and you are really looking forward to to attract the goals into your life. Once again, you have hope that you can really make things happen in you life. Nothing can stand in your way because you are now invisible.

    This is what it feel like in the heads of many at this time of the year. We all want to smash our goals and upgrade our lives. We want more money, better relationships, more accolades, more clients, and the list goes on.


    Achieve goals in 2017, goal setting, achieve success in 2017


    This is really a good thing. But what if I tell  you there is a way to hack your brain, so that your goal execution process becomes easier? Oh yes, there is a way.

    The law of of familiarity, which is one of the six laws in Gestalt Psychology can help you create the right perception you need to succeed. Understanding this law can help you create the right experiences that will help you attract your goals.

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    In this episode, you will learn about the law of familiarity, and two direct applications that will simplify the theory into practicable tips.



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    • What is your key take away from this episode?
    • Why do a large number of people find it difficult to follow through on their goals?
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    Tuesday, 3 January 2017

    The Leadership Skill No One Really Talks About


    LEADERSHIP, LEADERSHIP SKILLS, Personal leadership,

    The articles discussing leadership that are floating around online could almost compete with all the cat videos out there. 

    And for good reason…

    There is a shortage of strong leaders and the value that they offer is undeniable. The popularity of leadership training and seminars have also risen over time and focus on developing skills like conflict management, strategic communication, team motivation, and the list goes on.

    But with all the dialogue around leadership skills, there is one skill that is rarely mentioned at all. There are many challenges that come with taking on a leadership role, but the most difficult of them all may be the loneliness many of us experience. And although developing the means to deal with this facet of leadership is necessary, it is often overlooked. 


    This article will examine some of the reasons for the loneliness endured by leaders and some strategies deal with it in a healthy way.

    Why is Leadership Lonely?

     “It is strange to be known so universally and yet to be so lonely." -- Albert Einstein

    There are probably many leaders that can relate to the above sentiment. Whether you are a leader on a large or small scale, it can be hard to escape the loneliness that comes with the job. The following points provide some insight into this occurrence: 

    • The Intimidation Factor – Even if you are the friendliest person around, it is likely that others will be intimidated by you. This can create invisible walls between that seem to cut off contact from others.

    •  The “Appropriateness” Factor – When you are in leadership position, it often creates certain boundaries that you must adhere to. This means that it becomes inappropriate to confide in many of your team members as well as to those that you report to. Leaders usually have fewer people that they can turn to for advice, consolation, etc.

    • The “Enforcer” Factor – As a leader, sometimes it becomes necessary to enforce unpopular policies or even dismiss people from your team. This can result in receiving the cold shoulder and unpleasant mutterings from those that report to you. It’s unpleasant but it’s part of the job.

    The reasons above are just a few things that contribute to the loneliness that plague those of us in leadership positions. In the next section, we’ll outline a few ways to deal with this aspect of leadership. 

    Moving Through the Grips of Loneliness

    Even if you’re currently plagued with feelings of isolation, it is possible to relieve them and develop more balance. There are a variety of strategies that you can use to develop this skill, which include the following: 

    •  Develop Strong Relationships with Your Team: Even though there are certain boundaries that you should probably adhere to, it doesn’t mean that you can’t have healthy relationships with your team members. Employ reward and recognition to show them that you value them and take the time to interact in meaningful ways. 
    •  Nurture Your Network: The people that you associate with outside of work, such as family and friends are an important part of maintaining balance as a leader. Make sure to maintain these relationships and you may also benefit from employing a coach, mentor, or therapist to provide additional support. The strong community can be a powerful way to alleviate loneliness. 
    • Learn to Appreciate Solitude: Humans are not designed to be alone for extended periods, but that doesn’t mean we can’t use small breaks from others to get in touch with our inner core. Taking this time to meditate or engage in other reflective activities can offer a host of benefits including a greater sense of belonging. 


    Many leaders are surrounded by tons of people and a flurry of activity every single day. However, this does not eliminate the struggle with loneliness. Strong leaders learn how to work with these feelings and overcome them as they pave the way toward greatness. 


    This is an article by a guest contributor, Annabelle Smyth.


    Leadership guest contributor on seasoned life journal

    Annabelle Smyth is a freelance writer who covers everything from HR to technology and leadership skills. Her partnership marketing relationships have given her the opportunity to truly delve into the inner workings of the business world, which she enjoys sharing through her writing.

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    Monday, 2 January 2017

    Lead Your Life: How to Guarantee Yourself an Awesome 2017

    Personal leadership, personal effectiveness for 2017

    Happy New Year!

     I believe there is so much excitement in the air for you. You see the new year as an opportunity for a  fresh start. Most likely, you already blast yourself with goals and resolutions, and probably feel like the incredible hulk. Anything standing on your way this year must get smashed.

    However, with the passage of time, just like the previous years, a major number of people will actually disappear from the scene. The same old routine begins again.

    Have you ever been in a situation where you said, "Tomorrow, I would do it differently?" And the day came, but you didn't do anything differently.

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    Wednesday, 28 December 2016

    Top 10 Popular Posts that Rocked this Blog in 2016

    Seasoned Life, Personal Leadership, Inspirational blogs in Nigeria

    Compliments of the season! I hope you are enjoying the holidays!

    Every year since 2015, I compile the top 10 popular post written that year. Last year, I only picked the best five. Let's call it a yearly tradition.  

    The year 2016 was quite challenging for me. However, I can say those experiences helped me discover more about myself and in the end I got better for it. 

    I crafted a core message around personal leadership this year. So, we now roll with the new tag line: Lead Your Life. Speaking of that, I launched a podcast this year, called LEAD YOUR LIFE SHOW.  So far, we have done 7 episodes. I am grateful to Dayo Samuel of Audacity2Lead for helping me take that leap.

    My team and I hosted the second edition of Leverage Conference this year at the University of Ibadan, Oyo State, Nigeria. Check out the Photos of Leverage Conference 2016

    I also wrote a book, titled No Excuse Challenge. Make sure you download yours if you haven't. 

    I can smell 2017. This year is winding up gradually! Nothing will change in the forthcoming year if you don't change. The only difference is that 6 becomes 7.

    I am sure 2017 will be more awesome because I have gotten more awesome for you. Enjoy my top 10 list.


    10. 12 Resourceful Nigerian Facebook Communities for Smart Entrepreneurs

    The best thing you can do for yourself if you want to grow is to belong to a tribe of people who are living the picture of the kind of experiences you desire. I became an active member of some online communities this year and I decided to share my list with you. Trust me, before the end of the year, more awesome communities came up that were not part of the list. Read more...

     

    9. EVERY EXPERIENCE YOU'VE EVER HAD, HAS A COMMERCIAL VALUE - VICTOR EKPO BASSEY, FOUNDER OF THE HIGHLY PAID EXPERTS NETWORK

    I had an interview with Victor Ekpo Bassey, founder of HPEN. He started the highly paid experts network (HPEN) on the 5th of January 2015 with N10000 and basically built it into a multi million Naira asset in 11 months. At HPEN he is helping individuals build very influential personal brands.  Read more... 


    8. Top 3 Authentic Reasons Why Passion Will Frustrate You

    I discovered that a lot of persons, all in the name of passion keep hitting rock bottom, and their dreams are becoming a night mare. So I decided to share these 3 helpful tips. Passion is only a means to an end. Read more...


    7. How to Take Charge of Your Low Self Esteem Problem

    I received a message in my Facebook inbox. This young man is a 200 Level of Geography and Regional Planning. He wanted to know how he could overcome his timidity and feeling of inferiority. I have been asked this question several times, so I decided to turn it into a full blog post. Read more...



    6. 7 Reasons You Get Frustrated in the Pursuit of Your Dreams

    It seems like I like the word "frustration"? Absolutely not! But I kept observing certain trends in the way people go about their life.  Every man and woman in existence seeks for a certain level of expression. There is an innate thirst for fulfillment - to leave a legacy.
    Based on my observation and research, I came up with some reasons that can make you experience ceaseless frustrations in the pursuit of your dreams. Read more..

    5. From Around the Web: 10 Sensational blog posts that will help you have a spectacular 2016

    As the new year buzz was dying down gradually, I decided to curate a list of blog post other awesome authors have written that could help you really have the remarkable 2016 you desired. Read more..

     

    4. 7 Expert Entrepreneurs Reveal How to Build a Business Around Your Passion

    I reached out and contacted some top entrepreneurs in different industries in Nigeria with a good track record of success to share with you secrets they discovered would make a difference for any entrepreneur just starting out. Read more...




    3. 3 Ultimate Success Principles You Can Learn From Health Physics

    One of the elective courses I offered in the first semester of my final year in the University was Health Physics. I picked interest in that because I spent two years trying to gain admission to study medicine and surgery but all to no avail. I eventually got offered Physics Education. From my knowledge and experience in the class, I shared 3 evergreen principles that will help you consistently live a successful life which I adapted from one of the health Physics lectures. Read more...

    2. Top 40 Phenomenal Quotes That Will Teach You Self Leadership

    I am on a journey to become one of the future father's of this nation and I am serious about taking many along with me. So I curated some of the phenomenal quotes from people who have directly influenced my life positively in diverse ways. While some are great quotes I found worthy of sharing with you.  Read more...




    1. 32 Nigerian Inspirational/Personal Development Blogs to Follow in 2016.

    In 2015, I was worried there were not enough Nigerian owned Personal Development blogs. So I started to curate lists yearly. One of the reason I have started this yearly list post is to discover more blogs in this niche, celebrate them and also encourage consistency. And so far, I discovered more blogs than I could imagine. 2017 list is also loading. Read more...


     
    There are so many other resourceful posts I wrote but these were the ones with the highest page views.

    Please share with your friends and drop a comment. Which of these ten was your favourite and why?
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    Monday, 26 December 2016

    Overcoming Your Greatness Inertia - with The Oracle [Podcast]


    Do you know that 99 percent of the time you are the one sabotaging your dreams? 

    More often than not, you permit inertia to take its full course in your life.


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    The life you live is designed to operate from inside-out. You need to discover those fundamental things that stop you from maximizing your potential. One of them is called "Greatness Inertia".

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    If you don't change the things you did in 2016, your 2017 will remain the same. Absolutely nothing will change, if you do not change.

    I have a guest today, who is a Spoken Word Poet. Heritage Osofowora, is a 17 year old Poet, whose stage name is "The Oracle." This Interview was inspired by his presentation at Leverage conference 2016 (Snippet at the end).  Heritage shares his insights on how you can overcome self inflicted inertia.

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    • What is your key take away from this episode? 
    • What is that one thing that seems like an obstacle when you want to get started on your ideas?
    • What do you like about our young guest for this Episode?

    Let me have your response. I am waiting.

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    Monday, 19 December 2016

    Overcoming your Fear of Rejection [Podcast]

    We are a social being by our natural design. Therefore, to some degree we can make sense of people reactions to rejection. No one likes to be turned down or turned away. We all want to belong and feel accepted in one way or the other.

    However, all that can go wrong. As much as we have the idea that we want to feel loved and accepted, in the real world, things do not go that way.

    It is a known fact that not everyone will buy into your idea, like you, appreciate you, compliment you, or even discern your value immediately. It is quite unfortunate that many individuals allow the mere opinion of others get in the way of their dreams, goals, and vision.


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    I grew up with complex issues. I lived my life majorly on validations from others. Whenever I didn't get the expected response, I looked down on my self.

    If at this point, I decided to record a podcast episode on this subject, you should know fully well that I know what it feels like to be scared of rejection.

    You are a leader. You do not have to live at the mercy of people's opinions. You can develop your personal leadership by learning how to deal with the roots of the problem.

     There are three major things you would learn in this episode:
    1. What are the causes of the fear of rejection?
    2. What are the consequences of the fear of rejection?
    3. How to handle the fear of rejection like a Ninja.

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    • What is your key take away from this episode? 
    • What do you think is the major cause of the fear of rejection?     

    Let me know what you think. I am waiting.

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    Wednesday, 7 December 2016

    Handling and Staying Calm at Time of Crisis



    Guest post by Paul Gilbert


    Crisis resolution, solving problems, leadership qualities

    Misfortunes may happen to anyone. It is something that no one may anticipate or even thought may happen to them, but life has a lot of surprises in store for everyone, some are nice, but unfortunately not all are for the betterment or improvement of someone's welfare. 

    Crisis, is definitely not a favourable event to anyone, but as the saying goes "life must go on", it should go on, even on the toughest and hardest times. Nevertheless, handling and staying calm at time of crisis may not be easy, but somehow achievable with the right attitude.

    Ways to keep one calm at times of crisis:

    Staying positive

    Yes, it is hard, surely not easy, but looking at the brighter side of things, keeping one's spirit high, keeping faith up high, can make you handle things a lot easier and better. You can be in the middle of crisis now, staying positive despite all the pains and downfalls can help you deal with your current situation a lot better. 

    Never ask the question "what if"

    Never look back! Never think of things that never happened or will never happen. Accept the current situation and the result of what really happened. Flashing back and thinking of what may happen if things done differently will never give you any help. The "what ifs" will never give you relief but actually more heartaches and difficulty moving on.

    Devising a plan of action now

    What are you waiting for? Move up, plan and take action. You cannot live forever in despair, after the crisis, you have to make your action plans to help you get out of your situation. If you think you need to seek help from others like, works comp attorney, you better do it now. 

    Patting yourself on the back

    A pat on the back is always free, giving yourself some recognition on the simplest things you do won't hurt at all. This is a good way for you to motivate yourself and feel good about your being. A pat on your back is the fastest way for you to boost your confidence and get the lost trust to self back.
    Give yourself some loving and care. Trust yourself and make sure that you still recognize your good deeds, your talents, capabilities and abilities. 

    Keep cool

    Take it easy, breath in, breath out. Do not be too hard on yourself or even to others. Keep everything cool. In situation like this, pressure, impulsive reactions and actions, won't help. Relax, it is not yet the end of the world, do not rush yourself from recovering, yes, it is necessary for you to bounce back, but make sure that you give yourself time and do not take actions in a rush, this may just put you in a not so good situation. 


    Take care of your body

    Definitely! Love yourself. Do not take your health and wellness for granted. You should never forget that your body is your tool to bounce back, thus it is only necessary that you take care of it despite everything that is happening.

    Truth is, life crisis is not easy to handle, but, hey, if there is anyone who can help you get through all this, it is yourself. So, do not let things pull you down. Handling and staying calm can help you get through this gracefully.



    About Author: Paul Gilbert is a professional blogger, an enthusiast who loves to write on several niches including Insurance, Personal Injury, workers compensation attorney & Social Security Disability. He is also a part-time consultant at Zea Proukou, providing best solutions & support to injured workers for claiming workplace injury benefits under Workers' Compensation.
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